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Why
is it that sex is a difficult subject for people to talk about? Is it
embarrassing? Is it taboo?
Can
you remember your first official sex talk? The one your parents had with
you about the birds and the bees? I remember sitting at the kitchen table
with my mom and dad. Spaghetti was on the menu that night. I believe I was
twelve years old. Here I am at the age of forty-four. The world has
brought an education to me in regards to sex and relationships.
We
are all human. We all have a physical need within us that craves to be
fulfilled. How wonderful that first kiss was years ago. I believe I was in
the eighth grade. Do you remember your first kiss and how your lips
tingled? Did you see stars? Through the years of going from a young teen
to an adult, one may have different physical experiences.
There
is one common dominator we all long for and that is to be loved. We yearn
to find our soul mate in life. The one we can share all with including
total intimacy. In seeking this soul mate, we may find ourselves giving
our whole self to another. I personally feel when a woman gives herself to
a man; she gives a piece of herself and her heart. As for men, I can
remember my father always telling me and warning me about men. He told me
for men, sex was on the mind 24/7.
Have
you ever thought you were in love with someone? Did you find yourself
giving your whole self including total intimacy yet still felt unsatisfied
in the relationship? Was there something missing? This, my friends, is
called Just Sex.
I
have learned through my friend Sue that one should treasure themselves. We
are given one body while we are here on earth and we must treasure that
one body. Why should we give it to others to abuse and enjoy?
In
seeking our inner self, who we are, and what we want, we need to guard our
heart and our body. I am not telling you to build a wall and not let
anyone into your inner emotional world. What I am saying is take time in
life. Take time for you. It has often been said in order to love another
you must love yourself first. Do you love yourself? Do you know who you
are? Do you know what you want in life?
I
encourage you to find who you are. Once you find who you are, you will no
longer find yourself in a relationship that offers Just Sex. If you learn
to love yourself and come to know who you are and what you are worth, you
will find that you are priceless. No one will be able to steal your joy.
No one will be able to steal your heart—let alone your body. In
discovering to love yourself, you will find that you are worth much more
than Just Sex.
Learn
to treasure yourself. Learn to love you. Once you accomplish this, you
will be ready to discover true intimacy that life has to offer.
Through my journey of becoming empowered, I have learned that it is
better to be alone, than to be in a relationship and still feel alone.
As
the candlelight flickers and you find yourself lying next to someone, ask
yourself these questions. Do I love me? Do I know who I am? Does this
person fulfill more than my physical needs? If you can honestly answer yes
to the above three questions, Congratulations! You my friend have passed
the Just Sex phase and entered the world of true intimacy!
--Robin
Walters, February 26, 2006 |
